meeca:

Heterosexual sex tends to be penis-centric—perhaps even penis-obsessed. The moment a woman tells her friends she’s been intimate with a man, the first question asked is almost guaranteed to be: “Did you go all the way?” “All the way”, of course, does not mean whether or not they engaged in oral…

This is my favorite part:

Can we possibly imagine an intimate encounter where the man does not orgasm, but the woman does, perhaps several times? Can we imagine an encounter where sex is defined as whether or not it finishes with a female orgasm? Can we imagine saying “that wasn’t really sex” when the woman does not orgasm or enjoy herself?

(via m1nou)